I’ve been through a few identity shifts in this lifetime, and in the last year or two, I’ve gone through my BIGGEST reinvention yet (and I’m a bit like Madonna so it’s not my first time!).
The departure of my husband has been the single most painful experience of my life (even more painful than breaking my neck, having a child born with a life threatening condition and a husband who suffered brain damage after an accident) but it’s also been the biggest opportunity of my life to step into the fullness of who I am.
When everything is stripped away – we no longer have all the things that we think make us who we are – men, money, even our mission – what’s left is the rare, raw and radiant real us.
Being a wife was a big IDENTITY for me and ‘letting go’ of it hasn’t been easy. But in the midst of the healing, the soul searching and intense learning – as clichéd as it sounds, I emerged as a totally new woman.
And not just on the surface either, this isn’t some superficial makeover. It’s been deep (there’s been many a dark night of the soul to make Elizabeth Gilbert proud), it’s been demanding (I finally have the formula for being feminine – and the irony of that hasn’t escaped me) and it’s required daily practice (I’ve studied ‘Feminine Freedom’ with the devotion of a yogi becoming a monk!)
And it turns out this new woman is rather incredible. God damn lovable and a freaking goddess <3
In the absence of romantic love, I’ve completely turned in on myself and fallen head over heals in love with me (and of course the romantic love that follows that will be pretty damn special)
And I’ve found a renewed passion for my mission too.
So the business is getting it’s own make over as a result – Damsels in Success is totally uplevelling. It’s all very exciting.
After last month’s ‘Make an Impact, Leave a Legacy’ theme – I got clear that we are a conduit for change, pioneering the future in female leadership, and I committed to delivering that this year (yikes!)
And now this month’s theme ‘Who do you think you are?’ has seen me completely own my IDENTITY as the ‘World Leader’ of that (double yikes!)
Anyway, why am I telling you all this? Because basically I want the same for you – not the pain of the loss obviously but the learning that came with it – and the pleasure of stepping into and living the highest identity for yourself (the theme of this month’s Damsel in Success meetings).
And whilst I won’t pretend it’s easy – it’s always worth it and EVERYTHING does get easier when we align all our actions to it.
Magic happens … Where Energy Goes – Money flows
I’m sure we’ve all had experience of when that happens.
So I’m curious, what’s next for you? What’s the big shift that you want to make this year? And how could you step into the identity of that?
And for the woman ‘stepping up and stepping out‘, there has never been a better time to join the community of Damsels in Success – because ‘the rising tide lifts all boats‘ and as I uplevel, as Damsels uplevels – so do we all.
And it’s a lot easier – and a whole lot more fun – than going it alone 🙂
Come on get on board and let’s charter a new course together.
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With lots of love, your leader, Lucie B.